Sexual morals in today's American society are created in such a way that men and women expect each other to behave quite differently than DNA and evolution designed us to.
Women long for a prince charming character who loves them unconditionally forever.
Men long for an insatiable whore that satisfies their every sexual demand.
These desires are largely manufactured through early childhood gender roles and television's examples of gender roles.
This dichotomy creates a chasm of expectations between men and women which leave both sexes unsatisfied and jaded with current dating habits.
As a resident of a predominantly female college town I am in a position to observe and participate in the dating game. The overabundance of females makes the dating scene different from any other locale I've lived in. Women have begun to loosen up sexually and no longer fear the "slut" label. The women of this town know that if they play the tease and delay sexual gratification for the male they will be passed over as there is plenty of women for each individual male.
At the same time men of the town hunt for their sexual release while also understanding that the women's gossip underground will quickly label them as a womanizer if they play that role. With the large and closely connected female population this label is hard to escape once it is connected to a certain individual. So most men that are successful in the dating game hold relationships with women that pertain to more than sexual intercourse. Even in short multi-week or multi-month relationships the man is quick to introduce the woman to his friends and integrate her into his everyday life. They partake in many activities out of the bedroom before the relationship contains any kind of serious slant.
This movement of sexual roles feels more natural to both parties as the two genders' desires are both satisfied when both partners agree to meet in the middle. I feel like this more relaxed and enjoyable sexual playing ground stems mostly from the ratio of 65% women to 35% men. Some ancient historians and anthropologists have claimed that in ancient pre-civilization times the ratio was closer to this than the 51% 49% ratio we now experience.
Could dissatisfaction with current dating roles stem from this ratio imbalance?
Women long for a prince charming character who loves them unconditionally forever.
Men long for an insatiable whore that satisfies their every sexual demand.
These desires are largely manufactured through early childhood gender roles and television's examples of gender roles.
This dichotomy creates a chasm of expectations between men and women which leave both sexes unsatisfied and jaded with current dating habits.
As a resident of a predominantly female college town I am in a position to observe and participate in the dating game. The overabundance of females makes the dating scene different from any other locale I've lived in. Women have begun to loosen up sexually and no longer fear the "slut" label. The women of this town know that if they play the tease and delay sexual gratification for the male they will be passed over as there is plenty of women for each individual male.
At the same time men of the town hunt for their sexual release while also understanding that the women's gossip underground will quickly label them as a womanizer if they play that role. With the large and closely connected female population this label is hard to escape once it is connected to a certain individual. So most men that are successful in the dating game hold relationships with women that pertain to more than sexual intercourse. Even in short multi-week or multi-month relationships the man is quick to introduce the woman to his friends and integrate her into his everyday life. They partake in many activities out of the bedroom before the relationship contains any kind of serious slant.
This movement of sexual roles feels more natural to both parties as the two genders' desires are both satisfied when both partners agree to meet in the middle. I feel like this more relaxed and enjoyable sexual playing ground stems mostly from the ratio of 65% women to 35% men. Some ancient historians and anthropologists have claimed that in ancient pre-civilization times the ratio was closer to this than the 51% 49% ratio we now experience.
Could dissatisfaction with current dating roles stem from this ratio imbalance?
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