When a child leaves the home for the first time they truly begin to know how the relate to the world as a whole, rather than, their nuclear family. This is an intense and defining experience.
As a child grows they come to eventually see their parents as real people with all their faults and shortcomings. This supplants their childhood view of their parents as the omnipotent big people who know how to do things.
Finding out your parents have faults is a large turning point in any child's life. At this point children may begin to define themselves in opposition to their parents. They wish to not embody the bad character traits that their parents make evident.
When a child returns from their first extended sojourn into the world. (extended job, military, college, etc.) They may find that they have transcended much of the neuroticisms that their parents imparted on them. Being away from their parents for this extended period of time has made their own adoption of their parental attitudes clear and reminds them that, as children, they wished to transcend what they saw wrong in their parents' behavior.
When they return home, the former children, now individuals, may attempt to change their parents' behavior with their newfound knowledge and world experience. This is almost ALWAYS met with resistance from the parents.
Parents are not about to let the people they raised tell them how to change their lives, even for the better. The ego resistance to advice from children is highly evident and is detrimental to the parents. Because who knows their faults, and how to fix them, better than their own children.
If only parents could swallow their pride and see that their children can help them transcend themselves through the insight they have gained through being raised by them.
As a child grows they come to eventually see their parents as real people with all their faults and shortcomings. This supplants their childhood view of their parents as the omnipotent big people who know how to do things.
Finding out your parents have faults is a large turning point in any child's life. At this point children may begin to define themselves in opposition to their parents. They wish to not embody the bad character traits that their parents make evident.
When a child returns from their first extended sojourn into the world. (extended job, military, college, etc.) They may find that they have transcended much of the neuroticisms that their parents imparted on them. Being away from their parents for this extended period of time has made their own adoption of their parental attitudes clear and reminds them that, as children, they wished to transcend what they saw wrong in their parents' behavior.
When they return home, the former children, now individuals, may attempt to change their parents' behavior with their newfound knowledge and world experience. This is almost ALWAYS met with resistance from the parents.
If only parents could swallow their pride and see that their children can help them transcend themselves through the insight they have gained through being raised by them.
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